How to Manage Emotions?
Emotions are our most powerful resources. They drive our behavior, and they make us do things in certain ways. How familiar are you with your emotions? Unfortunately, many clients that I am working with do not know the importance of their emotions; or may not understand what emotions are.
Before we talk about strategies and methods of managing emotions, we need to understand what emotions are. In simple words, emotions are our natural instinctive state of mind that we experience on a constant basis. They are OUR MOST POWERFUL RESOURCES.
Think of a time when you performed (something) at your peak. For example when you were able to fully concentrate and do something in full power (Whether it was something you did at work, or studied well, exercised, designed something, or delivered a great service or product). How were you feeling? What emotions were present and what emotions did you experience? Were they positive or negative?
Just think of that time:
Did you experience positive emotions like excitement, passion, being in control, tons of energy, hope, and focus? Or did you experience negative emotions such as disappointment, frustration, impatience, boredom, and lack of energy?
For sure it was all positive for you. Wasn’t it?
It is said (and it is very true) that you can manage (and even master) your emotions; so you can manage (and master) what you do, and ultimately, your every aspect life. Isn’t it what you want and deserve? If this is what you want and you think managing emotions is difficult, you can read the rest of this article. I am sure that your understanding will be change because I have made it quite easy for you.
We experience emotions on a continuous basis. They are the way our mind and body react to external circumstances and internal dialogues. Our emotions are either positive (e.g. joy, happiness, hope, excitement, calm, energetic, etc.) or negative (e.g. sadness, fear, shame, anger, hurt, hopelessness, etc.).
Which category do you experience usually? Which category do you experience on Mondays or in weekends? Which one do you experience when you are at work or at home? Think of your problems (financial, relationship, health and fitness, career, education, etc.); when you think about them do you experience positive emotions or negative ones? For sure NEGATIVE.
Many people are under the impression that they have no control over their emotions. That is totally not true. Hundreds of studies have shown that we can control them. Not only can you control them, but also do you have the ability to change them INSTANTLY. Interesting? Do you want to know how?
Below are 5 highly effective and easy-to-follow tips for you to master your emotions:
• Exercise: Making a habit of daily and weekly exercise will change your chemicals. This will increase your chance of experiencing positive sets of emotions. You have definitely experienced great results of exercising. Physical exercises will change your emotions (and mood).
• Change your posture, gesture, and facial expression: Even if you fake it, your body will react to your physiology, and therefore, your emotions change instantly. This is mainly because your mind and body are highly connected and form a system. Whatever happens in your physiology and appearance will cause changes in your bodily chemicals, and in turn, your emotions and moods.
• Change your focus: You create emotions according to what you focus on. This means that if you focus on an unpleasant topic, you will feel negative emotions. And once you focus on a pleasant topic, either by recalling your pleasant past memories or by visualizing your desired outcome, you can create positive experience and emotion. You can do that by asking the right question (I will write another article about the art of asking empowering questions).
• Watch your interpretations: What you interpret is just your perception. We all need to remember that our perception comes from our own understanding, which in turn derives from our set of values and beliefs, current mood, and other mental filters that exist at our unconscious mind. It is not the reality. Therefore, if we change the conclusions, that we make out of our experience, we will change your perception, and consequently, our emotions.
• Get help: You can always get help from a professional coach, mentor, or expert. Someone who knows how to help you to master your mind and emotions. This is mainly because that person can help you change your way of thinking, give you new practical ideas (that you may never find), get you out of your comfort zone, and create a lasting change for you. You can also check my profile if you would like to know more about me.