Do Not Ignore Your Negative Emotions

Do Not Ignore Your Negative Emotions

As humans, we experience different emotions in different situations. Emotions that bring happiness, joy, and peace are termed positive ones, while sadness, anger, fear, and hurt are negative emotions. We focus on the positive ones that make us feel better and try to suppress the negative ones as they take place. When ignored for a long time, these emotions could turn into something worse that is incorrigible. When these emotions are persistent and abstain you from leading a normal life, it’s better to keep a check on them. Apart from this, instead of ignoring or dismissing them try to notice them, appreciate them as it would lead to positive outcomes, and let them pass instead of holding them for a long time. This article highlights types of negative emotions often experienced by us and shares some healthy coping mechanisms to deal with them.

What Causes Negative Emotions?

Negative emotions originate from various sources. First, they are an outcome of specific experiences or events. For example, you might be upset as your favorite team didn’t win the match, or your partner forgot to bring important stuff from the supermarket. These negative emotions occur due to the following reasons:

• Relationship Conflict

Conflicts in interpersonal relationships between two partners give rise to negative emotions. These issues are often experienced with friends, family members, or romantic partners.

• Internal

Sometimes, our source of conflict is not external but internal. This might be due to conflicts in values (wanting both wealth and comfort, health and great food, or saving money and having fun, etc.). Moreover, we might have very high levels of expectations; so, when these expectations are not met, we feel disappointed, sad, hurt, or weak.

• Unfulfilled Needs

Different people expect different things from life; it could be physical, emotional, psychological, social, or maybe spiritual. In such situations, you may experience a wide range of emotions, including sadness, anger, disappointment, loneliness, or distress.

• Coping techniques

Everyday stress leads to upsetting feelings when you don’t have coping techniques to overcome them. Poor coping skills aren’t the right way to manage stress, giving rise to negative emotions and making the issues worse or introducing new issues.

How to Deal with Negative Emotions?

Introspect and determine the situations that bring negative emotions in your life. Examine the source and your reaction to the situation. Certain events trigger these emotions, such as excess workload. The way you interpret a situation might add stress to your life.

Make Alterations if Possible

Once you know your emotions and what’s causing them, you will understand where you need to focus on eliminating the issue from your life. Taking stress triggers out or reducing them would keep the negative emotions at bay. You can accomplish them in the following ways:

  • You can overcome job stress by dividing the tasks, setting boundaries, and taking help from teammates.
  • Assertive communication can help you deal with relationship conflicts
  • Transform negative thought patterns with cognitive restructuring
  • It is impossible to change every source of stress so instead of focusing on what can’t be changed, try to change what’s in your control.

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness doesn’t mean ignoring the emotions as they occur or don’t get you a deep insight into childhood trauma. It informs you about your emotions and the way they manifest in your body so that you can respond to them in a better way or stay calm even when a disaster strikes. Mindfulness serves two primary purposes:

Makes you aware of the thoughts and feelings

It helps you gain an open perspective toward your thoughts and feelings

Mindfulness helps you focus on your emotions. You can remember this acronym while performing mindfulness.

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Take Them Out

Lifestyle modifications would eliminate negative emotions but won’t take out stress triggers. All you need is healthy outlets to handle such emotions.

  1. Regular exercise improves your mood and keeps negative emotions away
  2. Meditation prevents you from feeling overwhelmed during stressful situations
  3. Find opportunities to laugh and have fun to beat everyday stress & get a better perspective

Negative emotions are normal and can be dealt with by coping techniques like mindfulness. The goal isn’t to dismiss or shun these feelings but find healthy ways to handle them. Implementing these coping mechanisms can achieve better resilience and improve your overall well-being.

Ask for Honest Feedback

Try to get honest feedback from the audience that will make you an excellent communicator in the future. It will highlight areas that need improvement which you might not have paid attention to. Don’t take the feedback personally and take steps to become better than before.
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